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Saturday, 30 June 2012

SO MANY WORRIES . . .

Life is full of worries at the moment and stitching time is very limited!

To update my regular readers . . .

my dear Dad has been waiting for a life-saving operation to fit stents to stop a rapidly growing aneurysm from rupturing and at long last he has been given a date for the procedure ~ 4th July ~ it's a 4-5 hour operation and high risk with his other medical conditions!
 my dear MIL who has breast cancer will have a double mastectomy on July 23rd and again this is high-risk, especially for the recovery and the healing afterwards ~ we keep optimistic for both of them
my DH has a dear Aunt who is now 88, unmarried and has no children.  She was diagnosed with dementia 3 months ago, although the signs have been there for very much longer.  She has been in an Assessment Unit for the last 5 weeks and the decision has been made that she now cannot return to her flat and live alone safely so last Tuesday DH and I have moved her to a Care Home where she will be constantly looked after and be comfortable.  It was a 2hour round trip to visit her before and now she is literally a 5minute car journey away ~ the home is an old convent and has been beautifully refurbished with lovely grounds and accommodation.  I have been able to visit her every day so far and although our chats together are very random and are very much from the past, she still knows who I am and this weekend we are allowed to take her to the local park where she will enjoy the greenery and flowers so so much as gardening and nature was her passion.  Going through her possessions and clearing her flat ready for re-sale is very hard and it's funny how these situations give other family members every excuse not to be able to help!  Never mind, I know that DH and I were the ones who knew her best, love her dearly and are doing everything with as much compassion and feeling as we can.
a bit of good news though ~ my MRI scan came back with the 'all clear' and I have started physiotherapy ~ the first session left me in more pain then when I started but I'm told to expect a 6-8 week wait before I see any improvement in movement!!!

Oh, difficult and stressful days ahead of me, please keep your fingers crossed that my loved ones get through these ordeals without too much suffering xxx

I haven't got round to starting my new WIP, my concentration levels are not what they should be and when I do get 5 minutes at home it's a case of catching up on all the household chores and then bed!

I've picked 'A Wise Old Owl' up a couple of times and there is a little progress and another little owl has now appeared . . .


I want to pick up my crochet needle again and begin a granny blanket for our Aunt, we are allowed to decorate her room with photos and possesions and I've found some nice colours that will make a blanket and match the other room decor perfectly so IF I find a spare 5 minutes that's what I will begin next!

If you've got this far then a very big THANK YOU to you, it's rather a depressing post I know but it does help to be able to share my problems and your kind comments and support are always gratefully received and mean so much.

HAPPY STITCHING
xxx

19 comments:

Vickie said...

Dear Jane, I have prayed for your dear father, your MIL and YOU! How wonderful of you and your husband to see it through with your husband's Aunt. So nice to hear of a happy home for her. :) Take care now. http://astitchersstory.blogspot.com/

CalamityJr said...

I will also keep all of you in my prayers. Don't apologize for sharing, though - I've learned that stitching may be the main theme of blogging, but supporting each other is really what it's all about. Take care of yourself, too!

Denise said...

Sending hugs and prayers! Take the time you need to sort out what can be and breath deeply at the parts that are not sortable.

Carol said...

Will certainly be thinking of your father and MIL, Jane... You are such a special person to care for your maiden aunt. We are going through the same thing dealing with my dad's dementia and recently had the estate sale at my old home--just heartbreaking so see the old place emptied out and waiting for a new family. Good luck to you...you have a lot on your plate right now.

Shirlee said...

I am keeping you & your family in my prayers Jane. Take care of yourself!

Barb said...

Oh sweetie what a time you are having this year .Hopes and prayers are with you all and please keep us updated,hugs to all not forgetting the furry ones.

~*Sharee*~ said...

We will keep you and your family in our prayers hun; your Aunt is very lucky to have you and your DH. Glad to hear your test came back good...keep your chin up.

Hugs, Shar

Ma Teakettle said...

Hugs Jane :)
Praying for all, and the burdens that weigh heavy on your heart.
I am glad to hear that your test results are good!
Your family is so blessed to have you in their lives...so take time to take care of yourself, missy...and a few extra bunny kisses couldn't hurt ;)
Hugs
Ma

Elke said...

Das sind ja niedliche Eulen.
Liebe Grüße aus Österreich von Elke

Cath said...

Thinking of you and your family. No wonder you're stressed .
Fingers crossed for good news all round , and don't forget to take care of yourself too. XXX

Brynwood Needleworks said...

Dear Jane:
That's a lot for one heart to handle. I'll say prayers for strength for you and help and healing for all your loved ones.
You'll definitely be in my thoughts in July!
xoxo
Donna

Jo who can't think of a clever nickname said...

Sorry to hear about your parents but how lovely for your Aunt to have you nearby. It will make such a difference to the quality of her life.

Anne said...

Oh dear, not such good news. I truly hope everything will go well for your parents. It's good that you can go visit your Aunt daily. Dealing with Dementia/Alzheimer's is so difficult, but you get through it (my grandpa has Alzheimer's). Glad to hear your MRI is all in the clear. Lots of prayers and hugs for you! Your owls are darling by the way :D

Myra said...

Lots of prayers, gentle hugs, and happy thoughts headed your way.

Lois said...

Sending good thoughts your way Jane. That is a lot of worry to be dealing with. I hope all goes well for your Dad's surgery in a couple of days and for your MIL later this month. Sounds like a lovely place you've been able to move your aunt too. Take care.
xox

Maggee said...

You are so right--blogging is more than sharing projects! It can be where we share bits of our own lives! God bless you and your husband for caring for the Aunt, and many blessings to Dad and MIL as they face surgeries soon. And blessings on the doctors performing the surgeries! Glad your tests came back good. Therapy will make you feel better eventually! Hugs!

♥ Nia said...

So many hard news =/ Sorry to hear sweetie.. I'm sending good thoughts on your way, I hope everything will get better! Best wishes for you and your family!!!
{{hugs}}

stitcheranon said...

Oh lord you are going through it. My friend is also waiting for an aneurism op: she is having the one that isnt the coiled option..and after my own flirtation with breast cancer I hope and pray your MIL has successful surgery and a fast recover. Good news on your results but please try to look after yourself though I know that must be hard at the mo. Sending hugs (((hugs)))

Rosa said...

So sorry to hear about your dad and auntie. If i were closer i would help you out. I know how difficult alzheimers can be. Sincerely Rosa